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IV 1. How to resolve differences with parents?
If your parents are not convinced about your views, try to explain the rationale behind them. Speaking harshly to them will not help them understand your views. Be calm and give them a patient ear. Only then will you be able to convince them.
Sathya Sai Baba, 19 Nov 1998
   
Students should try to understand the real nature of their parents. Students sometimes ask for money from their parents to go to a cinema. When parents refuse, they think that the parents are angry. These are trivial issues. The parents, especially the mother, will be even ready to sacrifice her life, in order to save her children in times of danger. Unfortunately, today there are sons who even go to a court of law against their mothers. It is, therefore, essential that they change their attitude towards their parents and realize that they are verily embodiments of love.
Sathya Sai Baba, 18 Sep 2004
   
It is no use indulging in arguments and disputations; he who clamors aloud has not grasped the truth, believe Me. Silence is the only language of the realized. Practice moderation in speech. That will help you in many ways. It will develop Prema, for most misunderstandings and factions arise out of carelessly spoken words. When the foot slips, the wound can be healed; but when the tongue slips, the wound it causes in the heart of another will fester for life.
Sathya Sai Baba, 22 Jul 1958
   
Parents appear to be angry sometimes and may even give some punishment, but that is only outward. In their heart of hearts, they have abundant love for you. Even if they pretend to be angry, it is for your own good. The stream of infinite love ever flows in their hearts. Here is a small example: When the child does some mischief, the mother gives a beating. But, how? The beating merely produces sound but does not cause any pain to the child. Her anger is borne out of love only. On certain occasions, they may show anger, but it is only temporary. It is never permanent. You may think that your parents are angry with you. But, that is your own misunderstanding; you may not be able to understand their love, which is lying dormant.
Sathya Sai Baba, 18 Sep 2004
   
The son may go to the court of law because of some differences with his mother. On being asked by the judge, he tells his mother’s name as so and so. He utters the words, “My mother”. Similarly, the mother tells her son’s name as so and so. She says, “My son”. Such is the intimate relationship that exists between the mother and son. Whatever differences that may arise between them are only temporary.
Sathya Sai Baba, 18 Sep 2004
   
From today onwards, you give up whatever little anger you have towards your parents and cultivate pure love towards them. Love begets love. Receive love from your parents in abundance and prosper in life
Sathya Sai Baba, 18 Sep 2004
   
Do not treat any one as an alien. Remember all have Me as their guardian and support. Have no anger, malice, envy or pride against or before any one. Be full of humility; have faith in human goodness.
Sathya Sai Baba, 22 Sep 1968
   
Always respect another's opinion and another's point of view. Do not start a quarrel at the slightest difference of opinion. He may be right and you may be wrong. Ponder over his argument; he might have had the advantage of knowing more about the subject or you may be prejudiced either for or against; or he may not know as much as you. All differences of opinion are not due to personal hatred, remember.
Sathya Sai Baba, 25 Nov 1959
   
Do not do anything which brings tears into the eyes of your parents. Honor them and obey them. Do not condemn them as old-fashioned. "Old is Gold." They speak out of a longer experience of the world and its tricks.
Sathya Sai Baba, 25 Nov 1959
   
Do not forget your mother. In the world today, there may be a wicked son, but never a wicked mother. You owe your blood, food, and head to your mother.
Sathya Sai Baba, 19 Nov 1998