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VII i Need for Discipline

1. Why should parents discipline children?

Balancing 'love' and 'law': Parents today tend to lavish too much affection on their children. But such affection alone is not enough. There should be control also over the children. There should be both "love" and "law". Only when both love and restraint are present will the love prove beneficial. They pamper the children by giving them money freely. Whenever the children go astray, wittingly or unwittingly, parents should hasten to correct their faults and bring them to the right path.
Sathya Sai Baba, 5 Feb 1984
 
They should not hesitate to correct them and even punish them when the children take to wrong ways. The best way they can show their love for their children is to do everything necessary to make them follow the right path. If any boy proves intractable or incorrigible, they should not hesitate to disown him. It is better to have one good son rather than a brood of bad children.
Sathya Sai Baba, 5 Feb 1984
 
It is an unfortunate fact that today ninety percent of the children are spoilt by the parents themselves. The parents do not exercise timely control over the children. If the wrong actions of the children are corrected then and there, they will grow in the proper way. The parents should show no indulgence towards children who go astray. It is misplaced affection to let erring children go uncorrected.
Sathya Sai Baba, 6 May 1987