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IV 6. How are parents responsible for the bad behavior of their children?

Parents today get up from their beds quarrelling with each other. When the parents wake up hurling abuses at each other, the children wake up levelling blows at each other. If the mothers are good, there will be no room for bad behaviour by the children. Although parents may appear innocuous like fig fruits, they are responsible for the misbehaviour of their children, like the worms inside the fruits.
Sathya Sai Baba, 6 May 1993
For all the evil habits of children, who are naturally innocent and uninformed, the parents are primarily responsible. They do not make any efforts to teach proper ways of behaviour to the children. They pamper the children by giving them money freely. They want their boys to become high officers, to earn large incomes, acquire wealth and lead a life of comfort and ease. But they do not consider for a moment how they should make the children realise the need to develop good qualities
Sathya Sai Baba, 5 Feb 1984
The films that children are taken to see are full of violence and falsehood, mean tricks and conspiracies, which tarnish the springs of sympathy and love. There are parents who are proud when their children join them in card games or even drinking and gambling; there are parents who get angry when their children read religious books, attend temple rites and sit quietly for a few minutes meditating on the awe and wonder the Creation evokes in them. How can such parents claim to be the well-wishers of their progeny? They are the greatest foes of their progress. They do not equip their children with the armour which will render them safe in the turmoil of life. They try to make their children unworthy of the name Indian; for they grow up without learning about Raama or Krishna or the Geetha or the Bhaagavatha!
Sathya Sai Baba, 3 Apr 1967
All parents want their children to get a good education, good jobs and earn high incomes. But few of them want that they should grow into ideal citizens Nor is that all. Because of this attitude of the parents, the students are taking to bad ways and are spoilt like Dhritarashtra's children (the Kauravas). The students are not to blame. It is the parents who are responsible for the Students’ misbehaviour, which is reflected in indiscipline in educational institutions.
Sathya Sai Baba, 22 Nov 1989
There are other parents who by their behaviour and habits at home, in full view of the children inculcate in them the habit of uttering lies, gambling, drinking, etc.
Sathya Sai Baba, 19 Jan 1969